Too much expectation certainly leads to disappointments.
Most people fall into the trap of expecting too much from a close person.
When their expectations crash. They blame the other person. But it’s not other people’s responsibility to match your expectations.
It’s your responsibility to limit your expectations.
I’ve been in the hole of expecting a lot from people because I give more. It got me through a series of disappointments.
I learned that lesson the hard way.
6 Crucial things to never expect from anyone
1. Stop expecting others to always agree with you
It’s a harsh truth, but you need to accept it. It doesn’t matter if you are a wise person or a genius.
Some problems and solutions in life have more than one way and can be viewed from many perspectives.
These perspectives come from a personal view and experience. Everyone has a different experience in life.
Don’t expect everyone to agree with you because you think you are right.
You are right about your perspective, which is based on your experience. The other person can be right through his/her perspective.
You have to agree to disagree on certain things.
For example, you want to buy a new car as a gift for your daughter. But to make it a surprise, you decided to not give her a clue.
You decided to discuss which car your daughter will love with your partner.
You said Lamborghini is the best, but your partner said Ferrari is the best.
Both of you will have a solid point of view and reasons because you both see your daughter from different angles.
The right thing to do here is to agree to disagree. Then ask her friend to ask her about which car she would prefer.
2. Stop expecting others to give you more respect than the respect you give yourself
People respect a person who respects himself/herself.
If you give your time and attention to anyone, let everyone cross your boundary, and have zero self-respect. No one will respect you.
You have to set healthy boundaries, know your value, and never do things you know you shouldn’t be doing.
Self-respect is the most important quality you should add to your character.
If you expect people to respect you, you should first respect yourself. The opposite is true.
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3. Stop expecting and needing people to like and appreciate you
When it comes to pleasing people, I’m one of the people who would do anything so that others can like me.
I’ll agree with you so that you can be my friend or say good things about me.
But pleasing people gets you nowhere.
You create many personalities inside you and forget who you truly are.
But one day, I decided to stop changing myself just to fit in. I stop caring whether I’m liked or disliked by the person I’m dealing with.
This decision made all the difference. I started living the life I truly wanted.
I started speaking my mind and minding my own business and stopped apologizing for being real.
4. Stop expecting others to act the way you think they should act
This isn’t applied to anything. If you are loyal to a person, you should expect them to be loyal to you.
The minimum expectation in virtues like loyalty is 100%.
If they ain’t loyal to you, you are wasting your time being loyal to a person who won’t give the same support you give.
This should never be negotiated. It’s a fact.
The people you should never expect to act a certain way are friends, colleagues, co-workers, and neighbors.
You don’t know who they truly are and what they are dealing with.
You should accept them for who they are and never expect them to be who you think they should be.
If you don’t like them, you can replace them. It’s a simple solution.
5. Stop expecting others to read your mind
Your closest friend or partner is the only person who can read your mind and understand your silence.
But everyone isn’t your closest friend or partner. You should learn how to communicate your thoughts to others clearly.
Learn to reach out for help when you need it. Learn to be yourself around close people to let them understand you.
Everyone is different and not everyone will like you or match your vibe.
You shouldn’t waste your time trying to make them like you.
But there will always be a person who matches your vibe and enjoys staying with you.
6. Stop expecting others to change immediately
The change people make in their life is none of your business.
Stop expecting people to change just because they said they will. People usually lie.
Change is hard and it takes time. It’s the expectation that comes with the greatest disappointment.
The disappointment you get from certain expectations is crucial.
Here are the 6 things to never expect from anyone:
- Stop expecting others to always agree with you
- Stop expecting others to give you more respect than the respect you give yourself
- Stop expecting and needing people to like and appreciate you
- Stop expecting others to act the way you think they should act
- Stop expecting others to read your mind
- Stop expecting others to change immediately