How to calm yourself in 14 simple ways when life is getting tough
Life has its way of suddenly becoming tough and making you wonder about your own reason for existence.
On tough days, you are more likely to forget all your blessings.
The ultimate weapon against all these days is a calm mind. But reaching that state is hard.
I’m about to take you on a journey to make you reach a calm state of mind. This will improve your well-being, productivity, and decisions.
How to calm yourself when life is getting tough
1. Take a walk
Walking helps clear your disturbed mind. It changes your perspective on life.
You walk around and see people going through different things.
This makes you feel that you aren’t the only person going through bad days.
There are people like you out there dealing with problems but still, they choose to keep working.
This calms you and makes you rethink your judgment.
Take a walk not to think, but to observe your surrounding and get out of your fixed perception about life.
2. Lay off
Take a day off and relax. On tough days when our thoughts are shattered, many people will advise you to go harder.
But that’s wrong. Take a day or hours off doing what you enjoy.
Do things that make you live the moment. I watch a movie, read a book, or talk with my siblings.
You might enjoy singing, writing, or drawing.
These small things can calm you from the depth of your soul. When you are calm, your mind will start thinking effectively.
3. Be generous
Help a stranger or give him something. This act makes you warm.
Givers sleeps better than takers. This shifts your view from: I’m going through a tough time to we are all dealing with tough days.
4. Sit in a crowded place and soak up your surrounding
Coffee places, busy streets, sports stadiums, and civic space are the perfect example.
You don’t have to talk to anyone.
This gets you off your inner world where there are conflicts and shows you how the world outside is simple. This can greatly calm you.
5. Research your problem
Educate yourself about what you are going through. Watch educational videos about it on YouTube.
This doesn’t just calm you, it gives you the resources and knowledge to solve the problem you are dealing with.
The more you learn about your problem, the smaller it gets and the calmer you become.
6. Plan your day before you start it
Writing your daily to-do list before you sleep can improve your productivity and give you more control over your life.
These are the things you can control under any circumstance.
The more you focus your attention on the things you can control, the more strength you get.
7. Remember your strength
Make a list of 5-20 of your strength and talents.
In general, include everything positive about yourself and the things you enjoy it.
For example (mine):
- I’m a hard worker
- I’m consistent
- I’m great at making new connections
- I’m a good debater
- I can learn new things faster
- I can adapt easily
- I’m a big dreamer
8. Never give up, keep moving forward
Tough days are part of life.
You enjoy the good days moving forward with your life and you should move forward when things are tough.
Keep on making moves, keep on taking steps even if it’s small, and keep on thinking forward.
Life is what it is. You can’t change your past, but you can start where you are to build a better future.
9. Create a new hobby
If you ever thought about a new hobby but didn’t have the time to create it.
Now is the right time. If you thought about reading: get a new book and start reading.
You can revisit an old hobby too.
10. Prioritize
You have a lot of tasks, but are they all important? That’s the question you have to ask yourself.
Prioritize what’s important and shut down all distractions. Get your things done.
11. Get enough rest
Sleep 6-8 hours. Give your body and mind the rest it deserves.
12. Stop taking life seriously
Do something silly, do what you used to do as a kid. You can dance, jump high, or scream loudly.
This will free the repressed energy inside you. It calms you and free your mind.
13. Be aware of your Self-talk
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? Or how do you see yourself in situations you have no control over?
The more you become aware of yourself, the more you lift yourself. You can shift from negative self-talk to positive self-talk.
14. Write down your thoughts
Develop a habit of journaling. How things went bad and how you made it good.
You may skip days without journaling and that’s okay. But write down your thoughts when you are feeling down.
Conclusion
Tough days are inevitable and life can surprise you.
Here are the 14 simple ways to calm yourself when life is tough:
- Take a walk
- Lay off
- Be generous
- Sit in a crowded place and soak up your surrounding
- Research your problem
- Plan your day before you start it
- Remember your strength
- Never give up, keep moving forward
- Create a new hobby
- Prioritize
- Get enough rest
- Stop taking life seriously
- Be aware of your Self-talk
- Write down your thoughts
I think it is still good to listen to other people to find out what they know or need . There are already too many people who don’t give a fuck about safety or kindness or mercy. Just being greedy, mean and self-centered makes people fail in their work or business ventures. Narcissistic selfish people are not likely to have long-term success. We still need courtesy and cooperation for the really huge and complicated challenges we face, don’t we ? Of course, we should not listen to the demoralizing naysayers who get so jealous of ambition or skill that they lash out, or they try to sabotage positive changes because they get advantages in the old systems.